5 Key Elements to Becoming Your Best Self

If you stop and examine your health and wellness journey, where are you on becoming your best self? I think I can speak for most of the global population when I say there are areas in everyone’s life that can be improved.

The question is, what are those areas for you? What would it look like if you took intentional steps to create a better version of yourself? Let’s not make light of how awesome you are right now and how much worth you have just because you’re you. You’re reading this post; you’re breathing. That’s VALUABLE.

It can feel daunting and, if we’re honest, a little hopeless to look down the road and say, “I want to be her one day.” If “one day” feels far off, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I’ll be the first to raise my hand and say YES; sometimes it DOES! However, stepping into a healthier, happier version of ourselves doesn’t have to be far off. Today is the best day I can think of to start. Is it hard at times? You bet. Intimidating? Yes again! Painful? I won’t lie – yes, it can be. Worth it? 100%.

In this post, you will be given the blueprint for becoming your best self. I will help you uncover your beliefs about yourself and what is holding you back from the woman you picture when you think of a healthier you.

Get brutally honest here. This is a safe place to pull up the dark and ugly thoughts you keep tucked away. There is no judgment here for you. Remember, the more honesty and authenticity we can bring to the table, the more healing happens. Ready?

This post is all about becoming your best self.

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Becoming Your Best Self:

What do you believe about yourself?

What do you believe about yourself? This question initially seems simple but has more layers than we initially realize. Do you like who you are? Do you wish you were different? Are you happy with where you are and who you are now?

The biggest element to answering the question, “What do you believe about yourself?” is to become a student of yourself. That may sound odd but stay with me. To grow into the woman you want to become, you need a clear picture of where you’re starting from.

We all have something new we can learn about ourselves, and it starts with asking questions like: Why do I do that? What is making me feel this way? Why does this situation feel so high-stakes for me right now?

Honestly, the process of self-discovery can be both beautiful and extremely painful. It takes bravery, authenticity, brutal honesty, and grace.

Who do you want to become?

This is perhaps one of my favorite parts of the journey along the path to better health. Who. Do. You. Want. To. Become? Again, initially a simple question with a lot of layers. I encourage you to dig deep here.

Picture yourself as the woman you want to be in 5 years. Who is she? What does she look like? How does she carry herself? What insecurities has she worked through? What do her relationships look like? Does she have a job? If so, what does she do? What does her smile look like? Is it genuine? Is it confident? What people does she choose to surround herself with? How does she spend her free time? Is she married? Kids? Hobbies?

Sit and picture this woman in the future. Spend time dreaming and coming up with who she is in as much detail as you can. Don’t let fear or insecurity, or comparison interfere with the woman you picture. At your core, WHO do you want to be five years from now? 6 months from now, or ten years from now? Choose your timeline and let the dreaming process flow as if anything is possible.

What is holding you back?

Now that you’ve allowed yourself to picture the woman you want to be, what thoughts encroached that tried to shut her down? What lies, insecurities, or “realism” came up for you?

Write it down.

What is holding you back from that woman? Is it that you don’t believe there’s a way to be her? Do you feel like you don’t deserve it? Or maybe you don’t feel like you will ever be her because she is worthy of who she is, and you aren’t? Could it be that you want it and you just don’t know how to get there?

Be as honest as you can, even if it hurts a little to put it into words. Go ahead and write it down.

It’s important to remember to give yourself grace here. You are doing the best you can, and there is nothing wrong with you. Don’t forget; you aren’t broken – you simply have layers to peel back and work through to expose the woman you want to be underneath. She’s already in there, and she has everything she needs to come out; it just takes a little time.

Small changes make a big difference.

As the saying goes, the journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. The journey to becoming your best self is a beautiful and LIFELONG journey. You will see big changes quickly at times; other times, you will find yourself chipping away at the SAME thing for months, even years, before you will see a noticeable difference. And you know what? That is OKAY!

Instead of getting caught up in the giant leaps to get to where you want to be, ask yourself, “What can I do today to get me one step close?”

One small step may look like making your bed in the morning to feel more accomplished before the day starts. It may look like setting a timer and journaling for 5 minutes a day. Small steps can be walking for 20 minutes or meditating consistently. Whatever it looks like for you, every small step counts.

To figure out which small steps you can begin to take, think about the woman you pictured earlier in this post. Choose a couple of things about her that speak to your heart right now, and get honest with where you are in those areas. Now come up with 1-2 baby steps in those areas that you feel you can tangibly do now.

Pro Tip: A life coach/consultant can be EXTREMELY helpful in getting you on the right track to reaching your vision for your life. I HIGHLY recommend them!

Fall in love with the process.

As you journey through the ups and downs of becoming your best self, fall in love with the process! The LIFELONG process, to be specific. You won’t be able to “fix” all the things you find “wrong” with yourself and then come out the other side looking like a shiny object that now has all of this worth. You are just as worthy right now as you will be in 5 years, whether you’ve worked through a lot of baggage or not. Here’s the truth: You were made worthy; it’s woven into who you are and has been made so by Jesus, and nothing you do or don’t do will change that. You are already unconditionally loved, and nothing you do or don’t is going to change that, either. How cool, right?

Becoming your best self is a process; there is no finish line to show that you “made it.” Each step forward is worth celebrating. The beauty of your journey is you get to believe in yourself, practice giving yourself grace, and celebrate wins that are uniquely your own.